Friends, Come to the Feast | Eat Something Good Stories
In China, if you want to truly get to know a place, there is nothing quite like sitting down to a local communal banquet. It matters little whether you are a local or from far away, a near or distant relation, a familiar face or a complete stranger. The moment you take a seat and share dishes and drinks, you are no longer an outsider. The area’s culinary traditions, local customs, family affairs, and spirited gossip all come together on the feast table.
When it comes to communal banquets, Chinese people no doubt share a collective memory. We welcome your stories and recollections.
One might say that there are as many banquets in the world as there are human joys and sorrows.
Chinese-language cinema has a particular fondness for banquets. The lively wedding feast that opens Yi Yi conceals the private preoccupations of its protagonists; the sham wedding in The Wedding Banquet grows ever more genuine under the urging of friends and family; a staged funeral in Cigarettes & Coffees lays bare the warmth and chill of rural social bonds; and at the university acceptance banquet in Hi, Mom, two mothers engage in a quiet rivalry… Banquets are, by nature, where stories unfold. Words that usually go unspoken and emotions that typically remain buried finally find a chance to converge, with the feast as their medium.
◉Screenshots from the films: top left Yi Yi; top right The Wedding Banquet; bottom left Cigarettes & Coffees; bottom right Hi, Mom
Real-life banquets hold far more than the dramatic conflicts portrayed on screen. Dining together around a shared table is a deeply rooted tradition in China. From one-month celebrations, wedding banquets, and birthday feasts, to graduation gatherings and funeral wakes, the communal banquet bears witness to many of life’s most significant milestones.
For many, memories of home are inextricably linked to the communal feast. Even before dawn on the day of the banquet, large cauldrons are already set up in the courtyard; aunts from the village sit in a circle peeling vegetables and chopping ingredients, while a hired village cook works a blazing wok to prepare dishes for more than a dozen tables. Adults bustle about attending to guests, children dart back and forth beneath the tables clutching their bowls, and the family dogs are treated to an extra basin of meaty bones. When the feast finally winds down, everyone pitches in to clear the tables and wash up, dividing the leftovers to take home.
◉Scenes of banquet preparations in film. From film screenshots: top left, Yi Yi; top right, The Wedding Banquet; bottom left, Cigarettes & Coffees; bottom right, Hi, Mom.
A banquet table is also a microcosm of a region’s local bounty and terroir, reflecting local hospitality and its understanding of ‘social propriety’. Water towns abound in fish, mountains yield bamboo shoots, and pastoral regions offer mutton; indeed, some dishes appear exclusively at a grand feast. The north and south each have their own ‘crowning banquet dish’: Chaoshan braised goose, Sichuan steamed braised pork, Henan steamed bowl dishes, and Northeastern sweet and sour pork…
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The communal banquet has never stood still. A single banquet table serves as a slice of the era, charting the shifts in Chinese livelihoods, daily life, and the ways people relate to one another.
Thirty years ago, the village’s continuous banquets ran on tables, chairs, and crockery borrowed from household to household, with the entire community pitching in to slaughter and cook the food fresh on the spot. Back then, attending a feast was all about open-heartedness and shared excitement. Where a proper banquet was laid out, no one was ever sent away hungry; whether it meant setting out an extra pair of chopsticks or dragging another table into the yard, there was always a way to make it work.
Thirty years on, many of these feasts have followed migrants into the cities, moving into hotel function rooms such as the Dragon and Phoenix Hall. Standardised menus have largely replaced the communal efforts once shared among kin and neighbours. An increasing number of young people, too, are opting for smaller-scale weddings, inviting only their closest relations to share a simple meal.
◉A family-organised traditional banquet in the Northeast Chinese style, with preparations for the dishes currently underway. Image source: Bilibili creator @Yanbian Xiaoyang’s Family
The dishes served at these banquets have grown increasingly lavish. Various white and red meats are now standard fare, while seafood, Western dishes, and Japanese cuisine have begun to appear at some feasts. At the same time, pre-made staples such as pork belly with preserved vegetables, braised pork meatballs, flower rolls, mantou, and soup dumplings are also being served. The banquet spread we used to anticipate with such eagerness as children rarely manages to impress us these days.
The social dynamics at these banquets are shifting as well. Many feel that attending them has become little more than going through the motions: monetary gifts continue to rise in value, conversations inevitably circle back to marriage and starting a family, and the obligatory small talk and one-upmanship over drinks leave guests feeling thoroughly drained.
These shifts are difficult to categorise with a simple label; instead, they merely reflect the constantly evolving nature of our lives over the years. Yet even today, the communal banquet remains one of the few occasions capable of bringing a family, a community, or a village back together. What we wish to document is precisely this life in the midst of change.
For this edition of “Eat Well”, we are launching a call for stories about the traditional communal feast. It could be the most iconic banquet dish from your hometown, a wedding or funeral that left a lasting impression, your experience of hosting a gathering as the family in charge, a cherished memory of home, or simply your reflections on how these events have evolved over the years.
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Poster: Z X
Editing: Yu Yang
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